Write approximately one page, double spaced about the following:
Apply Communication Privacy Management Theory from chapter 12 (ppt on chapter 12 attached) to write about the following in several cohesive paragraphs. You do not need a formal introduction or conclusion, but you do need clear topic sentences identifying the direction of each paragraph.
Additionally, you must clearly address each part of the assignment.1. Identify and explain 1-2 family privacy rules that existed in your family/household growing up.
2. After explaining the privacy rules you identified, answer at least two of the following questions:a. How has privacy been beneficial or detrimental in your family?b. What changes in openness did you experience during different transitions in your childhood?c. Would/have you change(d) or maintain the same privacy rules in your own household as an adult? Why or why not?
Cite chapter 12 (either quote or a paraphrase) at least twice. When you quote, you do not need a full citation, but make sure you include the relevant slide number in parentheses.
Chapter 11:Family Relationships Chapter 11:Family Relationships Agenda Defining Family Types of family Family stories Family communication patterns Family dialectics Family privacy management theory Family challenges Defining Family “a network of people who share their lives over long periods of time and are bound by marriage, blood, or commitment, who consider themselves as family, and who share a significant history and anticipated future of functioning in a family relationship.” p.327, 5e Family identity Using communication to determine and define boundaries Intense and complex emotional bonds Shared history (and often a shared future) Shared genetic material (sometimes) Multiple and competing roles Defining characteristics of a family 1.” a strong sense of family identity, created by how they communicate” Stories you share, the way you fight, etc Defining characteristics of a family 2. “families use communication to define boundaries, both inside the family and to distinguish family members from outsiders” These include rules about how to communicate, about privacy and openness, etc Defining characteristics of a family 3. “Emotions bonds underlying family relationships are intense and complex” Most people both love and dislike their family members at least a little Defining characteristics of a family 4. “families share a history” Often generational This history tends to be part of how family expectations are set, which means that the shared history may help create trait #1—family identity Families often also share a common future, the expectation that you will remain family/part of one another’s lives Defining characteristics of a family 5. “may share genetic material” This can lead to similar personality and physical characteristics Though obviously not all families/family members share genetic material Defining characteristics of a family 6. “family members constantly juggle multiple and sometimes competing roles” a son and a brother and a father Defining characteristics of a family Types of families: Define each type Nuclear Extended Stepfamily Cohabitating couples Single-parent families Voluntary kin family Types of family Nuclear Wife, husband, biological or adopted kids Extended When more relatives--aunts, uncles, grandparents, parents, children—share a home Stepfamily When a couple gets married, and at least 1 has kids from a previous relationship Cohabitating couples Unmarried, cohabitating adults, living together with or without children Single-parent families 1 adult lives in the household, raising the kid(s) Voluntary kin family People who aren’t related by blood or by law (marriage) but who view one another as and treat each other as family. Often a result of bad or toxic relationships with biological families. Historically common in the LGBTQ community. Are there families that don’t fit into these categories? Nuclear Wife, husband, biological or adopted kids Extended When more relatives--aunts, uncles, grandparents, parents, children—share a home Stepfamily When a couple gets married, and at least 1 has kids from a previous relationship Cohabitating couples Unmarried, cohabitating adults, living together with or without children Single-parent families 1 adult lives in the household, raising the kid(s) Voluntary kin family People who aren’t related by blood or by law (marriage) but who view one another as and treat each other as family. Often a result of bad or toxic relationships with biological families. Historically common in the LGBTQ community. A note on types of families When I teach this class in person, I have always found that students share things about their own families They share family types and arrangements that don’t fit those listed in the book. Personally, I will tell you that my own family doesn’t fit into the types listed in our textbook. My family tree is way too complicated for that On a very basic level, I am very happily married, without children, but that is not listed in the book’s family types. Beyond that, my larger family is far more branched and complicated, with step and half families that are nowhere represented in the very neat, tidy categories listed in our textbook. I am not alone in this. Lots of families are big and loving and messy like mine! The textbook provides us with ways of thinking about families—these are the only types of families that exist in the world What types of family do you have in your life? Nuclear Wife, husband, biological or adopted kids Extended When more relatives--aunts, uncles, grandparents, parents, children—share a home Stepfamily When a couple gets married, and at least 1 has kids from a previous relationship Cohabitating couples Unmarried, cohabitating adults, living together with or without children Single-parent families 1 adult lives in the household, raising the kid(s) Voluntary kin family People who aren’t related by blood or by law (marriage) but who view one another as and treat each other as family. Often a result of bad or toxic relationships with biological families. Historically common in the LGBTQ community. Family Stories Courtship stories Birth and entrance stories Survival stories Courtship stories Stories about how a couple met Why are these kinds of stories important to family unity, family identity? Courtship Story Example The entire premise of the TV show “How I Met Your Mother” is a courtship story The premise of the show is that a father is telling is children how he met their mother—telling the story of how you met your life partner is fundamentally what a courtship story is Though usually it doesn’t take 9 seasons of a television show to tell a courtship story Birth Stories and Entrance Stories For biological children “Describing the latter stages of pregnancy, childbirth and early infancy of a child” For adopted children Describing how and why the children entered their lives What do these kinds of stories do for family identity? Do they serve a different function than courtship stories? Birth Story Example In this example, a mother tells her daughter the story of when the daughter was born YouTube link: Birth story Example birth story: Lorelai telling rory about the day she was born 20 Survival stories The coping mechanisms used to literally survive Perhaps through financial hardship, perhaps through war, etc Survival Story Example Example There are example videos on the following two slides of a survival story In this example, the grandmother (named Lydia) begins telling her story because her grandson asked her to do so for a school project, which he is filming. As she speaks, her performance becomes more sincere, and turns into a survival story. She begins by talking to her grandson, and ends talking to her daughter While watching the these clips, consider the following questions: What does this story tell Lydia’s children and children about their family history? About their family identity? Example birth story: Lorelai telling rory about the day she was born 22 Survival Story Example, Part 1 (of 2) From the television show One Day at a Time, Season 1, Episode 9, Viva Cuba 18:00-19:45 Click or hover your mouse on the video, and a play button will appear below the video Survival Story Example, Part 2 (of 2) From the television show One Day at a Time, Season 1, Episode 9, Viva Cuba 21:15-24:00 Click or hover your mouse on the video, and a play button will appear below the video Telling family stories: In your notes Write down an outline of one family story you would be comfortable sharing What are the key elements of that story that are never left out when it is told? Why is it important to your family? Why is it told over and over again? What makes it important to your family identity? Family Communication Patterns 2 dimensions Conversation orientation Conformity orientation Family Communication Patterns Conversation orientation: “the degree to which family members are encouraged to participate in unrestrained interaction about a wide array of topic” (334, 5e) Conformity orientation: the degree to which families believe that communication should emphasize similarity or diversity in attitudes, beliefs, and values” (334, 5e). 4 Family Communication Patterns Consensual Families Pluralistic families Protective families Laissez-faire families Consensual Families High in conversation and high in conformity Encouraged to openly share Encouraged to debate values, attitudes, beliefs High disclosure communications, attentive listening, active concern But high conformity, so debates and disclosure serve the purpose of getting everyone on the same page Parents tend to “exert strong control over their children” in such households, making it clear that only 1 perspective is acceptable in the end Address conflicts as they occur Pluralistic Families High in conversation, low in conformity Communicate openly Discussing many topics in depth Again, this type of family is likely to debate contemporary issues But judge based on merits of argument, not on whether or not everyone agrees Deal with conflict in a direct manner “seeking to resolve disputes in productive, mutually beneficial ways” (p.335, 5e) Protective Families Low on conversation, high in conformity Communication “functions to maintain obedience and enforce family norms” Communication skills are not highly valued Exchanging ideas amongst family members is also not highly valued Low levels of disclosure Avoid conflict because it threatens conformity “Don’t make waves”/ “Don’t cause trouble” Laissez-Faire Families Low in conversation and low in conformity Few emotional bonds between family members Low levels of caring or concern for one another Often a lack of interaction and lack of communication Laissez-faire parents think their kids should be independent thinkers/decision makers (like pluralistic families) But in laissez-faire families, it’s because the parents aren’t that interested in their kids thoughts/ideas/feelings Conflict is usually avoided or viewed as something to win Family dialectics Autonomy vs connection Openness vs protection Autonomy vs Connection You want to have your own separate identity (autonomy) even as you want to have good relationships with and feel close to your family (connection) This is often especially tumultuous during adolescence Autonomy and Class Helicopter parents often restrict autonomy excessively Most evidence in middle to high class families Openness vs Protection Tension between sharing personal information and maintaining privacy and boundaries Family Privacy Rules Family Privacy Management Theory Communication Privacy Management Theory “Individuals create informational boundaries by carefully choosing the kind of private information they reveal and the people with whom they share it” These boundaries are not necessarily permanent though, but may change as our relationships change over time Family Privacy Rules Key term in Communication Privacy Management Theory The boundaries we draw with our family members are defined/drawn by family privacy rules Openness vs Privacy: Family Rules Family rules that balance openness and privacy can be managed in three ways: Remember that all families identify both approved and taboo conversational topics; identify certain viewpoints they promote over others; and identify people whom they include or exclude from receiving family information. Be respectful of individual differences regarding openness and protection. Use sensitivity when seeking alterations to family rules. Family Privacy Rules “The conditions governing what family members can talk about, how they can discuss such topics, and who should have access to family-relevant information” These rules are not usually written down anywhere—you learn them by being part