watch this videohttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bM8I1_u2lOk
As the video clip we watched in class this week attested to, one of the most difficult things we may face is setting boundaries in our relationships, particularly when they require us to say “no” to someone we care about or to challenge the way we may be treated. Sometimes, we may not even be fully aware of a boundary until someone violates it. Establishing and maintaining boundaries requires us to define our boundaries, communicate them to others, and to follow through with consequences. Therefore, in your journal reflection this week, I want you to think about interpersonal boundaries from your own and another’s standpoints.
Part 1:
Based on the list of boundary categories provided in your weekly lecture notes (physical, time, sexual, material, emotional, intellectual), identify and describe (in detail) at least one personal boundary that you have set within an interpersonal relationship (romantic partner, sibling, parent, grandparent, cousin) corresponding with one of the categories. Provide whatever contextual information would be needed to understand the relationship history or dynamics, how you’ve attempted to communicate the boundary, and any consequence or response for a violation of the boundary within that relationship. Since boundaries refer to relationship expectations, your reflection in this section can refer to a boundary you’ve already had to establish with someone in a current or past relationship or a boundary that would affect a hypothetical/future relationship. Finally, drawing from Ch. 8, what is one step that you could take to strengthen the relationship dynamic while maintaining and/or further clarifying the parameters of your boundary?
Part 2:
Because personal awareness requires us to think not only about our own limit setting but the limits enacted by others we interact with, in step two of the reflection, identify and describe a boundary set by an interpersonal other (romantic, sibling, parent, peer, etc) that you have or could be at risk of violating. Describe the relationship context, the boundary (and boundary category), what happened (or would happen) if you violated that person’s boundary, and one step you could take to work toward better respecting the boundaries in that relationship in the future?
Point distribution:
- Part 1 – 8 pts
- Part 2 – 8 pts
- Writing/Depth (spell/grammar/flow, appropriate citations) - 4 pts