Thinking of a major loss you have experienced (e.g., the death of someone important to you or unexpectedly and suddenly being left by a significant other), what would you have liked others to have...

Thinking of a major loss you have experienced (e.g., the death of someone important to you or unexpectedly and suddenly being left by a significant other), what would you have liked others to have said to you? If you didn’t want anyone to try and respond to your loss, what contributed to that feeling in you?