Re-examine your conception of your ideal self. do you see how it might have arisen? if your ideal self is one of unrealistic standards of performance, consider whether your parents or teachers might...

Re-examine your conception of your ideal self. do you see how it might have arisen? if your ideal self is one of unrealistic standards of performance, consider whether your parents or teachers might have suggested to you that you could only meet their conditions of worth if you achieved these unrealistic levels. do you think they really meant to convey this message to you? do you think the intentions of others determine the impact of conditions of worth, or how the individual experiences those conditions?

Now consider what conditions of worth you impose on others. For example, what do you expect of another person in order to classify that person as your friend? what condition of worth would they have to violate to lose your friendship? seen in these terms, we can begin to see growth as interdependent, with each of us influencing, and being influenced by, other people.