Part I :
Videos link:http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aP55nA8fQ9I
&http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4VOubVB4CTU
Read the article “The Boiling Point” and watch the videos on Active Listening. Answer all the below questions in your main post-making sure to number your answers.Do NOT do one long paragraph.
- The author, Matthew Rich, initially reacted to Esetu’s behavior by feeling angry.Before he expressed his anger to the young child, Matthew worked through his anger by a process of self-empathy.He reflected on why he felt angry-beforehereactedto her in anger.Do you think this is realistic? Explain.
- If Matthew Rich had NOT gone through this process and reacted to Esetu in anger, how might the outcome been different?Explain.
AFTER you answer these questions, watch the 2 video clips on Youtube
“Older version-Active Listening Clip 1 (4.03 min) and –Active Listening Clip 2 (2:59).These 2 clips are from the show "Everyone Loves Raymond."
THEN:Answer the questions below:
- Do you think Matthew Rich’s reaction and behavior are realistic? Why or why not?
- What was your reaction to the article ? Did you change your view after watching the video clips?Why or why not?
Part II:reply to the following post( in short)
Boiling point
COLLAPSE
1. Matthew Rich's reflection of his anger before reacting to his anger is realistic. Anger is a powerful emotion that can sometimes cloud or actual feelings and reactions to our feelings. When Matthew broke down what he was actually feeling before responding to the emotions he was able to sort out his feelings and in return it helps to calm down th anger and rationalize how you want to articulate what it is your feeling before exploding. Often when we just explode in anger our actualpoints trying to be made never actually reinstatewith the other person.
2. Yes. I have tried to do that. I wont lie I can often react to my emotions before really processing them and thinking about them and it always leads into a bigger argument or misunderstanding. Communication in a relationshipsis very important and my wife and I have made an effort when we are feeling frustration, angry or even upset with each other to take a little while process our own thoughts and then come back to each other when our feelings are not so new. This has helped us to really explain better to the other one why we are feeling the way we are, and our emotions aren't as involved and its helps us to talk to each otherrather they yell and become defensive.We are really found that this has helped us solve problems in our relationships.
After watching Clips :
1. I do think Matthew Rich's reaction and behavior are realistic. However, I am uncertain due to the fact that my own son is only two months old and I have not really interacted with many five years old before, I dont know if his process of explaining his emotions will be as effective with a child. I think working through his own anger before exploding on a child is effective and helpful but I am not sure if a child can process what Matthews is feeling. I can see how the active listening can help a child work through an emotion they may be having a hard time expressing but like in the first clip where th teacher is acting out not wanting to go a party, we don't really see how the parent was able to ge the child to go to the party. We saw why she ruined the stuffed animal, and why she didn't want to go to the party and were able to break down her emotions as to what she was feeling but I don'tsee how it could change the outcome or what the parents really did to change the outcome of that in the future.
2. My reaction to the article was that it is a very effective way to work through your own anger. I think it helps to calm down when we you can understand what someone else is feeling, and doing things that make you angry. It helps to see why you are angryat what they are doing and calmly and effectively work thought it and understand each other better. After watching the clips , I see how active listening works to express feelings and really hear out the other person. Its hard for me to relate to it as a child and adult conversation but I will definitelytry this with my son in the future when we are having a hard time understanding each other. I think adult to adult active listening can really help a relationship.