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Fundamental Individual week 9
Week 9: Week Nine - Individual Work
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Honor yourself, your partner, and the Relationship:
Throughout this book, we’ve emphasized the importance of honoring yourself, others, and relationships. It important to keep all three in balance, especially when conflicts arise.
Consecutive conflict communication is impossible if we disregard or demean the other person’s needs and feeling. Doing so disconfirms the other and sets a win – lose tone for conversation. It is equally undesirable to muffle your own needs and feelings. In fairness to yourself and the other person, you should express your feeling and needs clearly.
In addition to attending to ourselves and others, we must remember that relationships are affects by how we handle conflict. For this reason, win-lose orientations toward conflict should really be called win- lose, because when only one person wind, both the other person and relationship lose. Win- win orientations and constructive forms of communication make it possible for both individuals and the relationship to win.
Show Grace when Appropriate:
Finally, an important principle to keep in mind during conflict is that grace is sometimes appropriate. Grace is granting forgiveness or putting aside our own needs when there is no standard that says we should or must do so. Grace is not the same things as forgiving because social norms indicate we should excuse inappropriate behavior for other reasons. While this is appropriate, and often kind, this is not an act of grace; rather, it is a response to social norms.
Also, grace isn’t allowing others to have their way when we have no choice. Instead, grace is unearned, unrequited kindness, for instance, two roommates agree to split chores, and one doesn’t do he share, because she has three tests in a week. Her roommate might do all the chores even though there is no agreement or expectation of this generosity. This is an act of grace. It’s also an act grace to defer to another person’s preference when you could hold out for your own. Similarly, when someone huts us and has no right to expect forgiveness, we may choose to forgive anyway. We do so not expect forgiveness; we may choose to forgive anyway. We do so not because we have to but because we want to. Grace is a matter of choice.
Grace involves letting go of anger, blame, and judgment about another and what she or he did. When we let go of these feeling, we release both about another and what she or he did. When we let go of these feelings, we release both ourselves and others from their consequences. Sometimes, we tell a friend that we forgive him for some offense, but then later not really shown grace. There’s no grace when we blackmail others for our kindness or hang on to hostile feelings.
Grace is not always appropriate. People can take advantage of grace and kindness. Some people repeatedly abuse and hurt others, confident that pardons will be granted. When grace is extended and then exploited, it may be unwise to extend it again to the same person. However, if you show grace in good faith, and another abuses it, you should not fault yourself. Kindness and a willingness to forgive are worthy ethical values. The richest and most enduring relationships allow room for grace occasionally.
Summary:
Although grace can be exploited, it can also infuse relationships with kindness and make room for inevitable human errors. It’s important to balance the tensions inherent in the notion of grace so that we recognize both its potential values and its dangers.
Reference:
Wood, J. (2013).
Interpersonal communication: Everyday encounters, (7th Ed.). Boston, MA: Wadsworth Cengage Learning.