Drawing on your reading in Goleman, Rosenberg, the Ted Talk we all watched, and your own research, summarizeTWO(2) of the Ted Talks you chose from our list in a brief paragraph(one paragraph per talk/TWO TOTAL). After completing your summary, write an analysis that draws connections/points between the talk and at least two other sources (your own research, our texts, the other talks you watched, etc). Your analysis should connect the Ted Talks and your other reading/our other materials. You will likely need more than one paragraph to do this effectively. Use MLA in text citation in your discussion.
Each talk should consist of a minimum of two paragraphs; one summary, one analysis. (that is a total of four paragraphs). You do not need to complete both in one post. That is, you may post up to two times in response to your chosen talks
Ted Talks:How to Have Better Conversations(Links to an external site.)andHow to Speak So People Want to Listen(Links to an external site.).
TED TALK on The Neuroscience of Conflict (12 mn):.
Emotional Intelligence (or the opposite -- "practicing" reactive, non aware behaviors and responses to the world). (14 mn)
Or other Ted Talks
Nonviolent COMMUNICATIONTM A Language of Life Marshall B. Rosenberg, Ph.D. P.O. Box 231129, Encinitas, CA 92023-1129
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[email protected] Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life 2nd Edition Printing, August, 2003 Author: Marshall B. Rosenberg, Ph.D. Editor: Lucy Leu Project Director: Jeanne Iler Cover and interior design: Lightbourne, www.lightbourne.com Cover photograph of Jerusalem artichoke: Eric Dresser Manufactured in the United States of America 2nd Edition, 1st Printing, August 2003 20 19 18 17 16 15 14 13 12 11 ISBN 13: 978-1-892005-03-8 ISBN 13 PDF: 978-1-892005-37-3 Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data Rosenberg, Marshall B. Nonviolent communication : a language of life / by Marshall B. Rosenberg. -- 2nd ed. p. cm. Includes bibliographical references and index. ISBN: 1-892005-03-4 1. Interpersonal communication. 2. Interpersonal relations. I. Title. BF637.C45R67 2003 153.6--dc21 2003010831 What People Are Saying About NVC TM: “Nonviolent Communication is a simple yet powerful methodology for communicating in a way that meets both parties’ needs. This is one of the most useful books you will ever read.” —WILLIAM URY, co-author of Getting to Yes and author of The Third Side “Marshall Rosenberg’s book, Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life, is essential reading for anyone who wants to improve their communication skills. Applying the concepts within the book will help guide the reader towards a more loving, compassionate, and nonviolent way of understanding and functioning with others, and foster more compassion in the world. I highly recommend this book.” —MARIANNE WILLIAMSON, author of Everyday Grace, President Global Renaissance Alliance “The extraordinary language of Nonviolent Communication is changing how parents relate to children, teachers to students, and how we all relate to each other and even to ourselves. It is precise, disciplined, and enormously compassionate. Most important, once we study NVC we can’t ignore the potential for transformation that lies in any relationship difficult—if we only bother to communicate with skill and empathy.” —BERNIE GLASSMAN, President and Co-Founder Peacemaker Community “Nonviolent Communication is a powerful tool for peace and partnership. It shows us how to listen empathically and also communicate our authentic feelings and needs. Marshall Rosenberg has a genius for developing and teaching practical skills urgently needed for a less violent, more caring world.” —RIANE EISLER, author of The Chalice and The Blade, Tomorrow’s Children, and The Power of Partnership “We learned to speak but not communicate and that has led to so much unnecessary personal and social misery. In this book you will find an amazingly effective language for saying what’s on your mind and in your heart. Like so many essential and elegant systems, it’s simple on the surface, challenging to use in the heat of the moment and powerful in its results.” —VICKI ROBIN, co-author of Your Money or Your Life “Marshall Rosenberg provides us with the most effective tools to foster health and relationships. Nonviolent Communication connects soul to soul, creating a lot of healing. It is the missing element in what we do.” —DEEPAK CHOPRA, author of Ageless Body, Timeless Mind “I believe the principles and techniques in this book can literally change the world, but more importantly, they can change the quality of your life with your spouse, your children, your neighbors, your co- workers and everyone else you interact with. I cannot recommend it highly enough.” —JACK CANFIELD, Chicken Soup for the Soul series “Marshall Rosenberg's dynamic communication techniques transform potential conflicts into peaceful dialogues. You'll learn simple tools to defuse arguments and create compassionate connections with your family, friends, and other acquaintances. I highly recommend this book.” —JOHN GRAY, PH.D., author of Men are From Mars, Women are from Venus “Rosenberg starts with the question: What happens to disconnect us from our compassion, leading us to behave violently and exploitively? Rosenberg makes some challenging points: that compliments and apologies operate in a system of oppression; that rewards are as harmful as punishment, that killing is the easy way out. His distinction between punitive and protective force—and how to discern when force is necessary—should be required reading for anyone making foreign policy or policing our streets. Demanding the ultimate form of responsibility—and vulnerability—it's no wonder that Rosenberg has received little media and mass attention. Well-written and laid out this book is accessible and easy to read.” —D. KILLIAN, On The Front Line, Cleveland Free Times “Changing the way the world works sounds daunting, but Nonviolent Communication helps liberate us from ancient patterns of violence.” —FRANCIS LEFKOWITZ, Body & Soul “Marshall's unique message gives teachers easy steps for peaceful communication and a new way to work with children and parents.” —BARBARA MOFFITT, Executive Director, National Center for Montessori Educators “I appreciate how well Nonviolent Communication reduces a very complex and needful topic to utter simplicity.” —HAL DOIRON, Director, Columbine Community Citizen's Task Force “Nonviolent Communication is a masterwork. Nationally, we talk peace. This book goes far beyond mere talk . . . it shows us how to TEACH peace.” —JAMES E. SHAW, PH.D., Jack and Jill, Why They Kill “In our present age of uncivil discourse and mean-spirited demagoguery, racial hatreds and ethnic intolerance, the principles and practices outlined in Nonviolent Communication are as timely as they are necessary to the peaceful resolution of conflicts, personal or public, domestic or international.” —MIDWEST BOOK REVIEW, Taylor’s Shelf “Nonviolent Communication is filled with stories of mediations in many different situations: families, corporations, cops and gangs, Rwandan village tribal chiefs, Israelis and Palestinians. The author describes how, in numerous conflicts, once ‘enemies’ have been able to hear each other’s needs, they are able to connect compassionately and find new solutions to previously ‘impossible’ impasses. He has compiled his ideas into an easy-to-read book that clearly explains this communication model. If you want to learn ways of more skillful speech, I highly recommend this book.” —DIANA LION, Buddhist Peace Fellowship, Turning Wheel Magazine “I highly recommend Nonviolent Communication to anyone interested in creating more intimate relationships or exploring the connection between language and violence.” —KATE LIN, The New Times “We have lived traumatic moments over and over again, moments of fear and panic, incomprehension, frustrations, disappointment, and injustice of all sorts, with no hope of escape. Those who have participated in Marshall Rosenberg’s training have a real desire to use Nonviolent Communication as a peaceful alternative for ending this interminable Rwandan conflict.” —THEODORE NYILIDANDI, Rwandan Dept. of Foreign Affairs - Kigali, Rwanda “This book is essential reading for anyone seeking to end the unfulfilling cycles of argument in their relationships. Marshall Rosenberg offers a radical challenge to centuries of thought and language that create violence. If enough people actually learn Nonviolent Communication we may soon live in a more peaceful and compassionate world.” —WES TAYLOR, Progressive Health “With the growth in today's dysfunctional families and the increase of violence in our schools, Nonviolent Communication is a godsend.” —LINDA C. STOEHR, Los Colinas Business News “I had come to realize that my old communication style was very judgmental and full of faultfinding. Both my work associates and I were unhappy. My life is significantly changed due to practicing Nonviolent Communication. I am more settled and relaxed even when I am busy. I no longer feel the need to discover fault or place blame. Everyone is happy to be working with me for the first time in my 33 years of owning and operating my own businesses.” —A businessman in California “If you care about healing the offender and the victims in the community, then it’s paramount that beginnings be made. Nonviolent Communication is a very large step toward that goal.” —A prison inmate “In addition to saving our marriage, Marshall's work is helping us to repair our relationships with our grown children and to relate more deeply with our parents and siblings. Marshall has shown a way to not only live, speak and act nonviolently, but a way to do so without sacrificing or compromising yourself or others. If angels do manifest in physical form here on this earth, then Marshall Rosenberg must be one.” —A reader in Arizona “Nonviolent Communication has catalyzed a process of clarification/ healing/empowerment in me that I could never have imagined. This process has impacted every area of my life and continues to unfold. For me, it unifies the spiritual truths I've found in all the world's religions. It facilitates and strengthens connections to others and its truths are experientially testable. In a workshop Marshall Rosenberg said that all the great religions have ‘love’ at their heart, and ‘I'm just trying to figure out how to do that.’ I stand in awe of the model this book teaches as a means of learning how to ‘do’ love and of its elegant simplicity.” —A reader in Florida “Applying these principles to my life and using this easy four-step process has helped me change old conditioned beliefs and ways of acting. Nonviolent Communication allowed me to overcome my toxic conditioning and find the loving parent and person that was locked inside. Dr. Rosenberg has created a way to transform the violence in the world.” —A nurse in California “As a professional in the field, I have read many books touting most of the topics covered in this book. But today I am ordering SEVERAL of these, particularly for the teenagers in my life. This book practices what it preaches, and I found the step-by-step approach, exercises, and examples to be clear and easy to practice.” —A reader in Maryland I have never read a clearer, more straightforward, insightful book on communication. After studying and teaching assertiveness since the 70s, this book is a breath of fresh air. Rosenberg adds the brilliant insight into the linkage of feelings and needs and taking responsibility and creates a true tool. Amazingly easy to read, great examples, and challenging to put into practice—this book is a true gift to all of us. —A reader in Washington “The single toughest, most dangerous opponent I’d ever faced—the